So how about loving that blasted
neighbour with his noisy dog, his pain-in-the-ass teenagers and his whiny habit
of getting himself burgled and complaining to Bibi (Yours Truly, in French)
about it? (I hasten to say I have no such neighbours in real life: the few I
know are uniformly delightful – an artist, a 94-year old farmer, and a former
spy.) I go back to agapao and its
uses. It is not a verb about feeling. It is a verb about being-there for
someone: the boring spectrum of emotion that you despise when you’re a
teenager, tempest-tossed with hormones and Sincerity.
Let’s look at the Samaritan. In
America, he’d be a Latino. His story tells us, as it was meant to, something
about “Who is my neighbour?” but also something about “What is this thing
called Love?” So we should pay scrupulous attention.
In the first place, what does he not do? He does not start an NGO called
“Travellers’ Aid”. He does not call the police; he does not organise a demo in
front of the nearest town hall or police station demanding more security for
citizens and travellers.
He seems to have learnt some first aid, dresses the wounds
with oil to ease the pain and with wine to cauterise the infection, puts the
battered man on his donkey and walks it to the inn where he was planning to
spend the night. The next morning he tells the innkeeper to look after the
felllow, pays him something on account, tells him he’lll pay the balance on his
way back – and goes about his business. Apart from the initial “taking pity on
him”, it’s all wonderfully unemotional: brisk and businesslike.
The helper’s Samaritan-ness is
important for the point about who stops and who doesn’t: it’s of no importance
for identifying what that “love” means.
It doesn’t mean an emotion. It
doesn’t refer to the way you feel, but only to what you do. If we temporarily
ban this word “love” it may help us understand parts of the Bible better. I
like “being-there-for”, but one could think of other terms. We are told to be
there for God, entirely: with our heart, our breath or soul, and our
intelligence. We are told to be there for our neighbour – and it’s explained to
us that in this case our “neighbour” is anyone we run into by accident who is
in clear need, a need we can do something about. And why? Because it grows out
of being there for God. We love God because He first loved us, and goes on doing
so. But He also loves the Anyone we run into and who’s in trouble; and He needs
us to put His love into practice.
The Samaritan didn’t go out looking
for attack victims. He was on a business trip, and interrupted it briefly to do
a good deed in a naughty world. Then he went on with his business trip.
“Being-there-for” also helps us
clarify the “as thyself”. If it’s about “loving”, well, many of us are not that
crazy about ourselves. But in a pinch we will act on our survival instinct and
look after ourselves. That’s what we’re asked to do for others, when the
occasion arises: be there for the bloke, do what you can to help out, don’t
make a fuss about it.
Micah puts it very well: “With what
shall I come before the Lord and bow down before the exalted God? Shall I come
before him with burnt offerings, with calves a year old? Will the Lord be
pleased with thousands of rams, with ten thousand rivers of oil? Shall I offer
my firstborn for my transgression, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul?
He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you?
To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” There it is.
Not complicated. Not emotional. Just do it.
The image, of course, is Rembrandt's. Who else? A pen and brush drawing of the Good Samaritan, done in 1644.